Where Is Home?
Last night, Jo mentioned she wants to move out of the house to stay in a rented apartment with 3 other friends at Tiong Bahru. Of course, my mom could not comprehend why my sis would even think of that and disapproved it. Was it unbearable for her to stay in this house we've been living in for like 15 years? Perhaps she needed her own space as she was so used to it when she stayed in the hostel during her uni days.
I can relate to her feelings as I've studied in Melb for 5 years. When I was there, I longed to be back in Singapore, back in my home where I can spend time with my folks. But once I'm back, at times I wished I was back in Melb as I rather do my own household chores at my own timing and have my own private space.
She & I shared a room. She was complaining about not having her own space recently, so I tried staying over at my bf's house more often than usual so she could have the room to herself...to do her thing. Thing is, I'm getting married this August, so I thought she'll be happy that she's gonna have the whole room to herself. But I guess that wasn't enough. Exactly what's on her mind? I no longer understand her and we are drifting apart.
Although I can relate to her feelings to a certain extent, I see no practical reasons why she wants to move out. It's gonna increase her expenses, the area they're looking at renting is costly, she's a spender, not a saver...money for rental can be put to better use and last but not least, who will be there for our parents?
Sean will be going to NS next year and our parents will be left alone in the house. Of course, I'll visit them and go home for dinner whenever I can but why can't my sis spare a thought for them? Is it that difficult to stay with your family and spend some time at home with them? It's not like they are going to be around for us forever...
Rivers do not drink their own water. Trees do not eat their own fruit. Clouds do not swallow their own rain. What great ones have is always for the benefit of others. - Hindu Proverb
Jo, if you ever read this, don't forget about your family, how we've been there for you and will always be there for you. I hope you'll do the same.
posted by Pearly @ 7:10 PM
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2 Comments:
sometimes people just can't see beyond their own needs... whilst they're grateful for all the care given to them, perhaps she just needs to get out and see what life is like on her own.
As a single person who is living on his own and not with the family/parents, I know the hardships and at times utter loneliness of being truly independent.
Given the choice, I will still live on my own and no it has nothing to do with being selfish and betraying the family. Singapore is a small country, no matter how far apart you live from your family, you can still travel to visit them within one hour. We can still telephone locally to talk. So what's the fuss?
We all need our own space, some us need it more than others. Perhaps parents should learn and accept this about their chidren. We're not abandoning our families just because we move out. We can still maintain a close tie even though we don't share the same roof anymore. I know this.
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